How changing your Beliefs can
change your world
What are beliefs?
- Beliefs are preconditioned sets of thoughts that you hold in your mind that dictate how you hold yourself.
- There are both favorable, or good beliefs, and unfavorable, or negative beliefs.
- Beliefs are NOT values.
- Beliefs are a set of doctrines that we live our life by
Where do we get our beliefs?
- Our beliefs come from our childhood, from what your parents taught you.
- Beliefs are things that you are told. They come from outside sources and they are put upon on you. Someone might have told you that you are good at something, but the person only sees you from one perspective in one particular point in time. Yet we generalize that one snapshot perspective and hold it as globally true about ourselves.
How do our beliefs affect us?
- You create self doubt when you have unfavorable beliefs, which causes you lose your confidence.
- If you are told that you are good at something, you continue to do it and try to improve in that area. Thereby increasing your skills and confidence.
- They are a self-fulling prophecy and they separate us from our own knowing
How do we identify our beliefs so we can decide whether to keep or remove them?
- The first thing to do is to look at your life and figure out where you are the happiest. What role do you enjoy playing? Is it the professional, the friend, the partner, the parent, etc. What roles are working for you?
- Now look at the roles that you don’t enjoy. What are your beliefs around those roles? For example, work is not fun, money is hard to come by, I’m not very good at sports with the kids, etc.
- Focusing on the beliefs around activities you don’t enjoy, think about what they mean to you. For example, if you are having problems with relationships think about why. How do you feel when you are in a relationship? Do you feel you have to act a certain way? Perhaps the pressure of acting a certain way, which is not the way you naturally act, causes you to become angry with others and break off the relationship, perhaps blaming the others involved. Is there a pattern of behavior over time? If you acted as yourself, you might not feel so pressured and would be able to maintain a happier relationship.
How do we change the energy around beliefs we want to remove?
- Declare that you no longer hold those beliefs – do it in writing, or out loud. Declare that" the beliefs no longer support me so I am going to let them go".
- Begin to think about how you want to flip the belief, name the beliefs (I want to wake up every morning and have a sense of flow even amongst chaos). Then live by it. Say these things over and over again until they become your new beliefs. Energetically it takes minutes. But it could take months for your mind to adjust. If you have a controlling mind it is easy to speed it up by telling it to go on vacation and telling the mind that’s it okay to let go over this thing.
- Get clear on the beliefs that you want to hold on to , what would it be like in a fantasy world, what you I do, what would I bring forward. Example: someone was surprised when a mother was going to be away on their birthday. If she didn’t understand her own self, then she would have changed her plans and been resentful that she missed her trip. She told the person that the children understood all the plans around their birthday and they kids were excited that they also got an adventure. The other person remained thinking that it was a bad thing. That freed the mother to think about how to look at celebrations.
If you would like to learn more about how to identify and work with your beliefs so that they support you rather than hinder you, attend a Sage Workshop or register for Wednesday morning group sessions and explore this topic with others who are looking to find their centered self. You can also email firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.